ADHD and Burnout in Women: Everything you Need to Know About Preventing and Healing It

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Understanding ADHD Burnout

Are you a woman with ADHD feeling constantly exhausted, overwhelmed, and unable to keep up with daily demands? You might be experiencing ADHD burnout. This comprehensive guide will help you understand, prevent, and recover from this unique form of exhaustion that affects many neurodivergent individuals, particularly women with ADHD.

What is ADHD Burnout?

ADHD burnoutis a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion that's distinct from neurotypical burnout. While research on ADHD burnout is limited, anecdotal evidence suggests it shares similarities with autistic burnout. For women with ADHD, this experience can be particularly challenging due to societal expectations and the constant effort to keep up with neurotypical peers (Quinn & Madhoo, 2014).

Newer research in 2023 also highlights that adults with ADHD, particularly women, often face higher mental health burdens due to constant effor

ts to mask ADHD symptoms and adapt to traditional environments that are not designed to support their needs. This ongoing effort significantly contributes to feelings of exhaustion and burnout (BMC Psychiatry, 2023)】.

Key Differences: ADHD Burnout vs. Neurotypical Burnout

ADHD burnout often happens because of things in the environment that are extra hard for people with ADHD. These include:

  • Too much noise, light, or other sensations.
  • Trying to hide ADHD traits to fit in.
  • Always working hard to meet what society expects.

Women with ADHD can have an even tougher time because they often:

  • Try to be perfect.
  • Do many things at once, like work, take care of kids, and manage family stuff.
  • Push themselves too hard to keep up with people who don't have ADHD (Hirvikoski et al., 2015).

This means they’re always working super hard and feeling stressed out. They keep pushing themselves beyond what's comfortable. All of this uses up their energy really fast and can lead to burnout. A 2023 study found that these exact challenges, particularly sensory overload and societal expectations, are significant contributors to burnout in women with ADHD (Psychiatric Times, 2023).

Causes and Triggers of Burnout in ADHD WOmen

Understanding the triggers can help you recognize and prevent burnout:

  • Masking Neurodivergent Traits: Constantly hiding ADHD symptoms to fit in (Quinn & Madhoo, 2014).

 

  • Stressful Life Events: Major changes or prolonged stress.

 

  • Sensory Overload: Overstimulation from environmental factors (Remington & Pellicano, 2020).

 

  • Hyperfocus Hangover: Neglecting basic needs during periods of intense focus (Kessler et al., 2006).

 

  • Chronic Anxiety: The interplay between ADHD and anxiety disorders.

 

  • Executive Functioning Overload: Struggling with task management and organization (Barkley, 2015).

 

  • Emotional Dysregulation: Difficulty managing emotions, leading to heightened stress (Shaw et al., 2014).

 

  • Imposter Syndrome: Persistent self-doubt and fear of being exposed as a fraud (Dodson, 2019).

 

  • Perfectionism: Constantly pushing beyond comfort levels to meet high standards (Hirvikoski et al., 2015).

These triggers often build up over time, leading to either acute or chronic burnout, depending on the individual's resilience and coping strategies. Recent studies show that ADHD women are particularly prone to perfectionism and people-pleasing, which exacerbates this burnout cycle (BMC Psychiatry, 2023).

Recognizing ADHD Burnout Symptoms

Early recognition of symptoms can prevent burnout from worsening:

  • Increased sensitivity to sensory stimuli.
  • Heightened Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD).
  • Deep physical and mental exhaustion.
  • Significant decline in executive functioning.
  • Emotional meltdowns and increased fight-or-flight response.
  • Difficulty performing previously manageable tasks.

The Burnout Cycle

ADHD burnout often follows a cycle that’s hard to break without intentional intervention:

  1. Push Phase: You’re overworking yourself to meet demands, masking your symptoms, and pushing past your limits.

 

2. Crash Phase: Exhaustion sets in, leaving you feeling completely drained and unable to function.

 

3. Recovery Phase: With rest, your energy slowly returns, but without changes, the cycle often repeats itself.

The hyperfocus-crash cycle (Kessler et al., 2006), where intense periods of focus are followed by extreme fatigue, is a common pattern in women with ADHD. Newer studies have confirmed that this is a frequent occurrence, especially in those who struggle with both ADHD and anxiety, as the hyperfocus leads to neglect of self-care, amplifying the crash (Frontiers in Psychiatry, 2023). Understanding this cycle can help you take preventive steps to manage it.

Accommodations and Workplace Support for ADHD Women

Workplace accommodations can play a crucial role in preventing burnout for those employed. Consider the following accommodations:

  • Flexible Work Hours: Allowing for start times that align with your energy levels (Remington & Pellicano, 2020).

 

  • Work-from-Home Options: Reducing the sensory overload of a typical office environment.

 

  • Quiet Workspace: Providing a space free from frequent interruptions and noise.

 

  • Noise-Canceling Tools: Using noise-canceling headphones or white noise to manage auditory distractions.

 

  • Task Prioritization Assistance: Helping with deadlines and prioritization to reduce stress.

 

  • Short, Frequent Breaks: Taking breaks throughout the day to prevent exhaustion.

 

  • Focus on Strengths: Assign tasks that align with your strengths and allow accommodations that reduce the strain of more challenging tasks.

Recovering from ADHD Burnout

Recovery from burnout requires patience and self-compassion. Here's a comprehensive approach:

Strategies for Immediate Relief:

  • Reducing Daily Demands: Doing less, especially things that make your brain work hard, helps your body and mind get better.

 

  • Communicate Your Needs: Ask for help. It's not easy, but it's essential.

 

  • Prioritize Rest: Deep, extended rest is essential for healing. Work on doing this without guilt. Engage in soothing activities for you, whatever that means. This helps heal your overactivated nervous system.

As You Start to Heal:

  • Unmask: Do things that help you feel calm. Don’t try to hide who you are. It's okay to be yourself and show your ADHD traits.

 

  • Connect with Support: Find friends who understand ADHD or accept you how you are. Talking to other people with ADHD can help you feel supported and less alone.

 

  • Slowly Get Back into Daily Routine: Slowly get back to your normal activities. Be careful not to do too much too fast, so you don't get burned out again.

Reflect on Triggers:

  • Notice when you're taking on too much because you want everything to be perfect.

 

  • Learn to say "no" to things that use up too much of your energy.

 

  • Set limits that protect your energy and well-being.

Healing from burnout is a gradual and individualized process that requires patience and self-compassion.

Note: Many of my clients wonder how long it will take to recover from burnout.

The time it takes to recover from ADHD burnout varies significantly depending on the individual, the severity of the burnout, and the support systems in place. While there isn’t a one-size-fits-all timeline, some general factors can help provide insight into the recovery process:

Recovery from ADHD burnout varies:

  • Mild burnout: Weeks to a few months ⏳
  • Severe burnout: Months to a year or more 🕰️
  • Key factors: Prioritize rest 🛌, self-care 🧘‍♀️, professional support 🩺, and gradual return to routine 🗓️
  • Avoid rushing: Slow recovery ensures long-term well-being 🌱

Patience and support are essential for lasting recovery 💪

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Long-Term Prevention

Implement these strategies to manage your energy and prevent burnout:

  • Recognize Energy Drains and Peaks: Track your daily and monthly energy levels, including how your hormone cycle affects you. Schedule important tasks during your high-energy times and plan for rest during low-energy periods.

 

  • Stop Comparing: You aren't meant to keep up with neurotypical people. Work-life balance for ADHD women looks different. Your pace is okay. Accepting that can be hard, but freeing at the same time.

 

  • Take Scheduled Breaks: Regular breaks are essential to prevent stress overload.

 

  • Manage Sensory Input: Learn about your sensory system and work to protect yourself from overload or understimulation (Shaw et al., 2014).

 

  • Practice Self-Compassion: Learn strategies to be kinder to yourself.

 

  • Learn How to Self-Accommodate: Make things easier for yourself by adjusting your environment.

 

  • Speak Up for Yourself: Learn to set boundaries and ask for what you need.

 

  • Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Mindfulness can help lower stress.

 

  • Prioritize Self-Care: Get enough sleep, exercise, and consider medication if needed.

Conclusion

ADHD burnout is a complex and unique expe

rience that requires understanding, proper support, and a personalized approach to recovery. Addressing burnout early, whether through self-care strategies, therapy, or workplace accommodations, is essential to prevent long-term consequences and promote overall well-being.


Cited Research

  • Antshel, K. M., & Barkley, R. A. (2020). Psychosocial interventions in ADHD: Cognitive-behavioral therapy. Journal of Attention Disorders.
  • BMC Psychiatry. (2023). Workplace challenges and ADHD burnout in adults.
  • Dodson, W. (2019). Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria in ADHD. ADDitude Magazine.
  • Frontiers in Psychiatry. (2023). Insights in ADHD: Hyperfocus and burnout.
  • Hirvikoski, T., Lindholm, T., Nordenstrom, A., & Carlsson, L. (2015). Overcompensation in adult women with ADHD and the impact on burnout. Scandinavian- Journal of Psychology.
  • Kessler, R. C., Adler, L., Barkley, R., et al. (2006). The prevalence and correlates of adult ADHD in the United States. JAMA.
  • Neff, K. D. (2003). The role of self-compassion in emotional well-being. Journal of Psychological Health.
  • Quinn, P. O., & Madhoo, M. (2014). ADHD in women: A guide to understanding symptoms and treatment.
  • Remington, A., & Pellicano, E. (2020). Workplace accommodations for neurodivergent individuals. Autism Research.
  • Shaw, P., Stringaris, A., Nigg, J., & Leibenluft, E. (2014). Emotional dysregulation in ADHD. American Journal of Psychiatry.

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Kristen McClure: Neurodivergent-Affirming ADHD Therapist and Coach with 30 years experience in North Carolina and South Carolina Offering virtual therapy and coaching services across North Carolina, including Ashville, Raleigh, Durham, Wilmington, Greenville, and more. Also serving major South Carolina cities such as Charleston, Columbia, Greenville, Spartanburg, Rock Hill, and more.