Anyone who’s ever felt the knot of worry tighten in their stomach knows that worry can be a destructive force. For women with ADHD, the challenge is magnified, as the brain’s wiring can lead to a heightened focus on potential problems, often resulting in paralysis by analysis. However, understanding and embracing our neurodiversity can empower us to manage worry more effectively. Here are five neurodivergent affirming tips to help you navigate adhd and worry.
Don’t try to control everything—recognize that some events are outside your control. Focus instead on what you can influence. For example, while global events are beyond our reach, we can control our responses and actions toward our immediate environment. This shift in focus liberates us from the weight of unnecessary worry.
How to Do It: Create two lists: one for things you can control and another for what you can’t. Use this as a visual reminder to focus your energy constructively.
Recognize when you’re worrying and pay attention to your body’s cues. Anxiety can manifest physically through symptoms like racing thoughts or tension. Acknowledging these signs, you can take proactive steps to calm your mind and body, such as deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation.
How to Do It: Maintain a “worry trigger” journal and document what initiates your worry. This will help you identify patterns and triggers.
Interrupt the useless cycle of worry by problem-solving. Instead of letting worry consume you, ask yourself actionable questions like, “What is my mind telling me to be worried about?” and “What can I do to influence the outcome?” This approach transforms worry into actionable steps, thus reducing stress and promoting productivity.
How to Do It: Use a problem-solving sheet to jot down the issue, possible solutions, and actionable steps. This methodical approach can help clarify solutions and alleviate worry.
Isolate worry time to manage constant generalized anxiety. Designating a specific time for worrying allows you to compartmentalize your concerns, preventing them from overshadowing your day.
How to Do It: Schedule a daily “worry time,” and if worries arise outside this period, remind yourself to address them during your allotted time. This practice can help minimize the intrusive nature of worry.
Check what your mind is telling you. Challenge the accuracy of your worries by questioning their validity. Often, our anxieties are based on unfounded or unrealistic assumptions.
How to Do It: Engage in thought challenges by questioning the truth and helpfulness of your worries. Asking yourself if there’s evidence for your worry or if there are alternative outcomes can help reduce anxiety.
By understanding the reasons adhd and worry are related for you and applying the FLOURISH model pieces above , individuals can create a supportive framework to manage worry effectively.
In Conclusion:
Worry, especially for ADHD women, can be a pervasive and challenging experience. However, by employing these neurodivergent affirming strategies, it’s possible to manage worry more effectively, leading to a more fulfilling and less anxious life.
Remember, managing worry is a skill that improves with practice. Embracing your neurodiversity as an ADHD woman means finding strategies that resonate with your unique brain wiring. By focusing on what you can control, recognizing the signals of worry, adopting a problem-solving mindset, containing your worry, and questioning the validity of your anxious thoughts, you can navigate life with greater ease and confidence.
Further Reading:
Read more about anxiety and adhd at my favorite clinician’s site.
Medical information obtained from this website is not intended as a substitute for professional care. If you suspect you have a problem, you should consult a healthcare provider.
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