Counseling tips for anxiety


Here are five counseling tips I use to help my clients with their anxiety.

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Have the right goals. 

 In working to decrease your anxiety, it’s better to think of changing your relationship with your thoughts rather than ridding yourself of it together.

People who have worries will often come into therapy and claim they want their “anxiety to go away”. This is not possible. Even if you were to take benzodiazepines that provide almost immediate relief, it has not gone away but is masked. In fact, it will be back full force in a short time, perhaps worse than when you started to take the drugs.


Counseling tips for  anxiety deal with how you interpret and interact with your thoughts, body, and environment. They are tips that change the way your brain functions, and when used repeatedly, they will become more natural to you than worrying.

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Recognize the false signals

The first step of taking control of your worries is to recognize when you are worrying. This includes paying attention to what is happening in your body and what is happening in your mind. This may seem silly, but many of us walk around on automatic pilot. By the time we recognize we are worried, we have worked ourselves into a pretty uncomfortable state that’s hard to return from.


The emotion of worry comes from what our mind tells us and what our bodies are telling us. Unfortunately, our minds and bodies are often giving us false signals.

The next time you are aware that you are anxious, ask yourself:


  • · How does my body feel?
  • · How am I breathing?
  • · What other things I am doing that indicate I am anxious ( i.e. smoking, drinking, eating).


Recognizing your physical cues of worry will help you to interfere in the cycle sooner. Once you realize what your signs are, you can begin the process of asking yourself some questions.


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Interrupt the useless cycle of worry by problem-solving

1. What is my mind telling me to be worried about?

2. What can I do to influence the outcome of this worry?

If there is nothing you can do, then worrying is an unproductive exercise; let it go. 

If you can do something to impact the thing you are ultimately worried about, you can decide to take action and then let it go because you have the problem solved.

One of the paradoxical things about worry is that it is intended to help keep us safe from harm. However, in modern-day life, excessive worry does not keep us from harm but leads us into harm.

 It paralyzes us from making good decisions. It clouds our intuition and problem-solving abilities, and it can also cause us to make poor decisions such as using drugs and alcohol to manage it. Rarely does it motivate us to make good choices or prevent us from making bad choices? People who worry, however, have concluded on some level that it is a useful exercise.

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Another strategy that can help with worry is to isolate your worry time to a certain portion of the day. If you have a constant generalized worry that you feel like you can’t escape from, giving yourself “worry time” Say for example, from 5-6 pm each night, can help with the management of worry during the day. When you find yourself worrying at other times, you tell yourself to let that worry go until it’s “worry time”.

During worry time, you can also use the problem-solving strategy above. Putting it on pen and paper is a great way to really illustrate when you need to take action to address a worry and when it’s something you should let go of.

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Check out what your mind is telling you.


Often worries are built on my untrue thoughts. Asking yourself if you know for certain the thoughts that are driving the worries are true, can sometimes help you to decrease your anxiety. This is a strategy that helps you challenge all of your thoughts that might be creating disturbing emotions, not just worries.

For example if you are having the thought that a meeting will go in a disastrous way, or your boss will act in a certain undesirable way, ask yourself if things might go another way.

Are you sure those thoughts are true?

 Or the other thoughts that are making you worry are true? 

What other thoughts might you generate that would produce less distress?

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