3 year old son-- seems very angry
Our 3 year old son has drastic mood swings. However, it's normally when we don't give him what he wants. He can sometimes be easily distracted and he will switch, just like that, but other times, it can drag out for a long time. He will scream repeat things over and over, he'll even 'act' nice "may I have water", we'll give him the water, and, then he will throw it.
Or "momma', Momma, momma." Repeating over and over. We’ll explain that he has to calm down first. And then he will start yelling, or say things. I'm just worried, thinking its more anger issues versus bi-polar.
I will call his doctor and discuss with her, but was just wondering what other symptoms are. He generally is a sweet boy. Loves to be hugged and kissed. It's just more so when he doesn't get what he wants. He is the middle child. So I have wondered about that. But we do try and make things equal with all children. We'll ask him what he is feeling, or ask him why he is so angry, and he just says "I don't know".
He has mentioned that he doesn't like me to go to work. But I try to explain the importance of working and also that he gets to have a lot of time with daddy (we work opposite schedules).
Trying to put a fun twist on it. I'm just worried and wasn't sure if this is normal. the oldest is a girl, and I've heard boys are different. Since this is our first experience with this, I'm just worried and concerned. Thanks for your help. Do you have any suggestions? reading materials? Thank you for your assistance.
Signed concerned mom
Hi concerned mom! I would be most concerned about your child’s behaviors if you have a history of bipolar disorder, alcoholism and depression in your family.
It certainly sounds like he is having some difficulty with anger, and also with anxiety but in no way does that mean that he has bipolar disorder. For specific symptoms of bipolar disorder in children I would read:
For even more details about Bipolar Disorder in Children I would recommend “The Bipolar Child: The Definitive and Reassuring Guide to Childhood's Most Misunderstood Disorder”, by Demtri Papolos.
Here is his website
Scared Mother of 3yr old boy
For a long time I have felt that something was different about my son. His temper tantrums are not like most toddlers. They are much longer and it is almost impossible to calm him down without giving in, and because I don't give in they will last up to an hour or longer. During these tantrums he seems to be in another world and he refuses eye contact. It's as if he is staring off into space. If his sisters are near he will hit or scratch them. He is aggressive towards other children at preschool and it is obvious they do not want him there. I know he needs to be in another preschool but I am fearful of how he will cope with the transition as has trouble simply getting in or out of the car, or leaving the swing to go to the slide, or going from one activity to the next. Small things set him off. It's as if all behaviors of an average toddler are magnified with my son and he seems miserable a lot of the time. On the other hand when it's just the two of us it is pure joy to be with him. He is by far the most sensitive of my three children. He is extremely concerned when he thinks one of us is upset. He is very affectionate. Compared to other children his age he has an expanded vocabulary and grasp of how things are put together...yet he has been difficult to potty train (#2) and he still uses a pacifier at bedtime. We just want him to be a care free happy child. Any suggestions?
Hi Scared Mom
There are so many things that could be going on with your child it would be irresponsible for me to try to diagnosis him online, in fact I can't do that. But, I can tell you I am concerned by the things you report. The problem most of the parents of the children I work with have is that the medical profession is not as concerned about their child as they are. It's especially difficult with toddlers, due to their inability to communicate what's really going on with them. I am certainly concerned about the rages that you report and the aggression . This suggest that your child is in distress in some way. I take him to a variety of doctors: neurologists, psychologists, and psychiatrists, until you feel satisfied you have some idea of what might be going on medically. Good luck
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