Toddler in trouble
by Tammy P
(Las Vegas, NV)
I have guardianship of my nieces 2 children. I have had them since birth and they do have contact with their mother.
I am concerned about Noah. He is 4 and I have had problems with him since he was very little.
I took him to the early intervention center here and had them test him for delays and autism. At the end of their evaluations, all they came up with he is developmentally delayed. He is so smart! His teachers say he is ahead of his pre-K class on alot of the things they just started learning.
He picks things up very fast.
He didn't start talking until he was almost 3 and he has always shown alot of aggression. He refused to sleep in a room by himself. He would wake up and come to my room, when I took him back to his room, he would wake up again and keep coming back. He started biting around 1 1/2. No discipline seemed to work on him. He was even kicked out of Sunday school for biting a little girl. He hits, beats up on his little sister and I am afraid he will seriously hurt her or another child.
He is CONSTANTLY getting into things he knows he isn't supposed to, even after warning him to stay away from it. He completely ignores you. It's almost as if when he is looking for something to get into
he cannot hear you.
He will have tantrums over what seems like nothing sometimes and other times, he will start doing something just to get you mad.
He has had severe separation anxiety since he was about 6 months old. It is just starting to ebb.
Other times, he is so loving and tender.
He gets nothing but rave reviews from his teacher telling me how wonderful he is in his preschool. His bus driver says he is the most well behaved on her route.
His grandmother is bi-polar and I believe that his mother may be also(Mother isn't diagnosed). His mother is Developmentally delayed, Mildly Mentally Retarded and Severe ADHD.
You don't have a question posted here, so I'm assuming you were just sharing your story. I thank you for this as there are a great deal of people who can benefit from knowing they aren't alone with the troubles they have with their children.
There are so many things that could be going on with Noah! I would take him to a psychologist and take him again and again until someone you talk to makes sense in articulating to you what is going on with your nephew!!
He is very lucky to have someone who is searching for services to get him help. We are very lucky to have people like you to step in and help children when their parents are unable to care for them.