Schizoaffective Disorder and Foster Care

by Kimberly Griffith

I'm writing this story, in reguards to my daughter Hope Griffith. Hope has been in a therapeutic foster home for about a week and half. During that time Hope was able to come home for the weekend of Mother's Day. We picked Hope up and went out to eat for Mom's b-day. Instead of enjoying this time together, it was spent trying to understand why Hope kept crying and begging not to be send back to this foster home. As the weekend went on Hope continued to cry about this, and became aggressive towards her family. That is what got Hope put where she is right now. We found out that the other foster child, that Hope shares a room with, Had punched Hope very hard in the forehead and side of her face, leaving bruises on her. Which was why she was crying all weekend long. On Monday morning things got out of hand, it was just Hope and I(mom) at home. We were getting ready to go is her med doctor. Hope then decided to get a knife and threaten to stab herself if I(mom) return her to the foster home. all the while I find out that the reason Hope was hit by this child was for using bad words at the child, altought there should have been no hitting at all. Hope did not like getting a taste of what she does to her own family. I tried many times to rmoved the knife from Hope, but was not able to, she came very close to stbbing herself in the belly. I grabbed the knife as she tried to push it in the belly area, at that point Hope grabbed another knife before I could get around the island in my kitchen. I then called 911 and the foster mom who was on her way. Hope began to throw my chairs in the kitchen and kept saying that I son't love her. You could see that this went from behavior to something more in a matter of minutes. Hope had a blank stare in her eyes like nobody is home anymore. Foster mom got to my home and took Hope with her, About an hour later foster mom calls me to tell me that Hope has ran from her and that Hope is at another home down the road for her. Hope calls me twice from two different homes, and I finally get her to go back to the foster mom so we could take her to the hospital, Hope was not put inpatient, but did see her doctor that day. Her doctor felt that Hope was in a depression of some kind, and put her on a med to control the depression for her. I have been through more than I could say but I also know that there is hope for Hope if she would just open that mind a little more. By the way Hope has schzoaffective disorder.

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Jan 28, 2015
we walk a narrow road NEW
by: Linda

There is no turning back. We have these children biologically, through adoption or in our families. I believe that someday we will see how blessed we were to go through this life with them. I so appreciate the person who wrote "we need patience and support" . It's so true. They need us to be a buffer - they need us to be loving and positive even when we feel like victims ourselves. Too soon they will be in the world trying to make their way down the path. If they have a loving parent in their memory, it just might strengthen them through their hard road.

Dec 30, 2011
Fight the Fight NEW
by: Jay

I know the pain and sacrifices personally. As tough as it is all you can do is your best which means you will need a lot of patience and support. Try not to focus on what is wrong but what is working, you are the care giver. For every bit of darkness and emotional pain your son or daughter needs you!!
We cannot fix this so try to accept it and do all you can to get them the help they need. Keep showing them a door out. Encourage, encourage, encourage, spend time with them and show them you love them daily.
Our country is broke and some States are closing health services and facilities. Our health care system is broken with runaway medical costs per GDP. This is a national crisis!!!!!!!!!

Jun 04, 2011
My son is 26 and has schizoaffective disorder
by: Mailani

My son stays at home 24/7 with the exception of an occassional outing to get a haircut. Rarely can I persuade him to go anywhere! He is gaining weight in huge proportions, and I can not always be home to monitor what he east! He is not violent, just very delusional! My friends say that I need to out him in fostercare or group housing but it scares me. Last year he was at our local crisis resolution center for 5 weeks, followed by 5 weeks at out local hospital, then sent to the state hospital for further stabilization. Now all he wasnt to do is sleep, eat and search the internet. I have become increasingly depressed and this is affecting all aspects of my life! I wish I could believe or find a group home or fostercare that he could actually feel safe at!

Mar 16, 2011
Schizoaffective Disorder
by: John

Schizoaffective disorder is an Illness during which the patient has symptoms of both schizophrenia and a major mood disorder at the same time. This disorder is tough to recognize because the symptoms are similar to other disorder and the most prominent symptoms are from the psychotic disorder.

Nov 24, 2010
Schizoaffective Disorder
by: Alisha

Schizoaffective disorder is a serious mental illness that has features of two different conditions, schizophrenia and, either major depression or the bipolar disorder. Schizoaffective disorder is a life long illness that can impact all areas of the daily living, including work or school, social contacts, and relationships. Most of the people with this illness have periodic episodes, called relapses, when their symptoms surface. While there is no cure for schizoaffective disorder, symptoms often can be controlled with the proper treatment.

Jan 23, 2009
sometimes we have to do what's best
by: Anonymous

My daughter is 13 years old. Christina has been a handful since she was adopted at 11 months. No medical background since it was South America. She was a very scared baby and in Dec of last year we finally got her to a hospital and she was there for a month. From there she went to a treatment centre until the following August. Since then she is at home and it has been a nightmare. Every morning is like I am living in a soap opera. I do not know what is going to happen which is dramatic everyday. She has a school phobia and refuses to do to school. She has ADD and anxiety problems but I believe she has more than this. When we decided to put her in a theraputic live in environment, when I saw her taken away I had a nervous breakdown and spent a week in the psych. ward. It was awful but she seemed to be a lot better when she had strict patterns to follow etc. Right now I am counting the minutes until she sees a psychiatrist Feb 3rd for medications. All along, she was not given medications. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT> the hospital, the psychiatrist and the theraputic home did not give her medications. She has been getting terribly worse over the past 2 months. I am going out of my mind. Almost gave up my marriage and am getting panic attacks. Everyday is a constant fight and I am suppose to be non reactive. I can do this most of the time but not always. We are mortal! I know something has to be done or I am going to end up in the hospital. I had a melt down 2 days ago and my sister in law kept me on the phone until my husband arrived. My 3 alternative are: theraputic home, private theraputic school(boarding) taking medications and going to school everyday. These are the options we are going to tell me this weekend. I will have to get a part time job because the school is 30.000 a year but I can not live like this anymore. I know this is best for her even though I have been talking about myself. She is 13 , 14 in March , we have only 2 years to make a difference in her life otherwise I feel she will be lost to us. No education, and not much of a life to look forward to.This intervention of some sort has to happen now before we lose her completely. I am very upset she might have to leave us but even if she hates us and becomes a better person it will be worth it. This is not an easy situation but the first and foremost thing is my daughter and what is the best way to help her. There are no answers that are clear cut. The medications are a start but I know this will not be a perfect situation. We also feel that she might have bi polar problems to add to the list. You have to really fight to get the best for your child in the system. There is no easy way but there are options. Just really sit down and think about them. My heart goes out to anyone who is dealing with these situations with their child. It is truly the most heart breaking situation you will encounter in your lifetime.

May 14, 2008
I understand the fear
by: Anonymous

I feared putting hope in a group home too, and had tried everything I knew to do. But there comes a time where it's no longer about you anymore. It's about your child and what's best for them and their future. Which is why Hope is in a therapeutic foster home, I was able to choose who I felt was best going to fit Hope's needs, found a great person and things will change soon.

May 14, 2008
by: Anonymous

Thanks for your story. I wish that Hope would not have done those things to you and your family, espically on Mother's Day. I hope that one day she will be able to look back at this and see that she didn't mean it.

I too have a son that is Bipolar & ADHD. I have done everything to help him, but nothing seems to work. I continously get emails, letters from school and the phone calls telling me what bad things he has done every day. My doctor wants me to put him in a group home. I can't bring myself to do it.

I don't know if it would be the best thing for him or not. I am having a hard time dealing with it.

Thanks for your story. I hope that things get better for you and Hope.

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