My 3yr old son...autistic and/o bi-polar???

My son will be 4yrs old in October. This is hard for me to explain without sounding very scattered. He has developmental delays....socially and verbally. Honestly, he has just started really 'talking', most of which is still about 3 words paired together. He is in special education preschool, which seems to be helping. I had to put him into daycare because everyone that I trusted to keep him would just get tired of dealing with him. He has been diagnosed as Autistic, but my concern is this (i have been reading alot of things)....his father(we are divorced and they have NO relationship) is treated for Bi-Polar, Schizophrenic, Depression, and is an Alcoholic. Good combination, huh?!

My son has always been a little temperamental but nothing of the charts, in the past 3 months, it has gotten frightening. He has become so violent when he 'rages'. It gets so bad that I wear the battle wounds...and he has none(which is good). He will scratch, pinch, try to bite, slap me in the face, pull out handfuls of my hair, screeches at the top of his lungs. If I try to console, it makes him madder....if I try to hold him down to keep him from destroying everything in sight, its even worse. If I try to 'ignore' it....he WILL hunt me down to take swings at me.

He gets the glazed look...his pupils so big that you can't see the color of his eyes! Sometimes, he even says 'sorry'.....'sorry'.....'sorry' during the episodes. Then after about an hour of this...its

like a light is over and he is sobbing himself to sleep, as cuddly and loving as he was before it ever happened. I don't know what to do...I don't want him to be Bi-Polar, Autistic, or any of those things....but if he is,

I owe it to him to get him the help he needs and deserves!!!! I realize you cannot diagnose him....but can you point me in the right direction????? Thank you for your time.


I am so so sorry for the difficulty you are having with your child.I know how hard it can be to have uncertainty about why you are seeing these behaviors.

One thing I would suggest is that you get him an evaluation to make sure he isn't having seizures of some kind. This would be important considering the description you are giving. I would also continue to try to find the best in the field of autism in your area, get him assessed, and then ask the questions you are asking me.

Autism is not an area of specialty for me. I would ask specifically how he meets the diagnosis? Then I would ask how they know it isn't a mood disorder or some form of psychosis?
Its unfortunate that mental health diagnoses are so unclear, really they are flawed in many ways and professionals sometimes have difficulty teasing out all of the issues you are talking about. Thank you for sharing your story with us and good luck to you in finding help for your child.

Kristen McClure

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