Mother of peanut allergic Grade 1 boy

by Joanna

Ivan is a very happy, sociable outspoken just turned six-year-old boy. Six weeks into school he has started crying before going into school saying that he is going to miss me too much and can't go. He started getting so upset Sunday night that I told him he could have a "stay home day" just so that he would relax and sleep peacefully. It has gotten worse and refused to go this morning, so I had to bring him home with me - but then wanted to try going back just before lunch.

I can't physically make him go. But I don't feel right letting him stay home either. He told me after supper that he was afraid that this feeling would never go away because he wants to go to school.

I will try what I read in this article, but if you have any other advice please let me know!

Thank you,

Hi JOanna

There is nothing scary at school and so his mind has tricked him into thinking there is. If you allow him to stay home, firstly you are signaling that you feel it is very distressing to go to school and reinforcing his anxiety. Secondly, when you avoid a fear it becomes stronger. When you confront a fear it becomes smaller! Avoidance maintains and perpetuates all of the anxiety disorders. It might be a good idea to go ahead and schedule him a few counseling sessions. Good luck to you.


Kristen McClure

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