As a grandmother of a 3 year old who acts the same, I understand and sympathize. Our three year old has been through 3 day cares since last february 2008 and is to start a fourth tomorrow; this one specializes in children with disruptive behaviors and we are hoping that this will help us get some consistency with proper interventions to help us work with him. We had him evaluated first by a neurologist to rule out any disorders, including seizures, autism, etc. Although we suspected it was behavioral from the start and due to similar situations as you described, right down to the issues with the father. I would suggest that you and your daughter run-do not walk-to the pediatrician and start the process of an evaluation. If there is a daycare in your area that specializes in working with disruptive behaviors, look into it or as small a setting as possible for the one to one interventions he may need. I try to model better coping behaviors to my daughter so that she can see other ways to relate to my grandson as she is so on edge with him that he is always tense with her and tries to get her attention with bad behavior. And potty training has been a problem as well with her not being consistent; I recently took a week off of work to help jump start the process with good results. I can tell you its exhausting and it does take a village to deal with a child like this. But there is help out there- you have to advocate for him with your daughter and health care providers.
Dec 02, 2008 Rating
I CAN RELATE- by: Anonymous
As a grandmother of a 3 year old who acts the same, I understand and sympathize. Our three year old has been through 3 day cares since last february 2008 and is to start a fourth tomorrow; this one specializes in children with disruptive behaviors and we are hoping that this will help us get some consistency with proper interventions to help us work with him. We had him evaluated first by a neurologist to rule out any disorders, including seizures, autism, etc. Although we suspected it was behavioral from the start and due to similar situations as you described, right down to the issues with the father. I would suggest that you and your daughter run-do not walk-to the pediatrician and start the process of an evaluation. If there is a daycare in your area that specializes in working with disruptive behaviors, look into it or as small a setting as possible for the one to one interventions he may need. I try to model better coping behaviors to my daughter so that she can see other ways to relate to my grandson as she is so on edge with him that he is always tense with her and tries to get her attention with bad behavior. And potty training has been a problem as well with her not being consistent; I recently took a week off of work to help jump start the process with good results. I can tell you its exhausting and it does take a village to deal with a child like this. But there is help out there- you have to advocate for him with your daughter and health care providers.
