Frustrated and worried

by Shirley

I have a 15 (almost 16) year old son. He is Bipolar/ADHD. He has a very low frustration level which causes major problems in school. He was 7 years old when he was dx and first hospitalized. Since he was so young, he has not recieved a good educational foundation.

Although it has been hard we have made it through the ups and down though the years. Now I am more worried than ever. He is 6 ft 1 in and weighs 235 lbs. He is a big boy and has anger issues. He wants to be in complete control and when he can't be he breaks things and threatens to destroy things. He has been kicked off the school bus because they feel that it is a safety risk for him to ride. They are afraid he will cause the bus driver to wreck or that he will hurt the other kids.

He does break things but has not attacked us since he was much younger. I am worried that it is coming though. When angry the other day (on the school bus) he said the worst thing he has ever said to me (on the phone). He said, "I hope you die, bitch." He says he doesn't remember saying it and he is sorry. I believe him because he often doesn't remember when he loses his temper.

He is now getting in fights at school. The school system is pressing charges on him for the bus issues. They are already making me drive him 45 minutes each way to school. He is in a theraputic day school so it isn't local.

I am worried about his life and don't know what else to do to help him. I have asked the school system to consider residential care twice in the past because I have been so worried about his future. The school system won't pay for it. It seems like they are going to use the law to try to control him but it won't work because he really has issues and needs help. I am worried that he will end up in a detention home when he really needs intensive therapy. (We have tried in home therapy as much as 15 hours per week). If you can offer any suggestions, I appreciate it.

PS. - He is on medication, sees a psych. and has had two hospitalization in the last two years.

I am tired and don't know what to do.

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