I see the same relationship mistakes over and over again, and so I’ve created these dating tips for teenage girls.Every day I spend several hours with girls in my counseling practice. Regardless of why they are there, most of the session hour we talk about dating.
Dating tips #1
Choose carefully. Everyone always says “You can’t help who you love”. That’s just not true. Have you thought about what you are looking for in a boy? Make yourself a list ahead of time and avoid choosing the wrong boys.
Dating tips for teenage girls #2.
Don’t just give your trust away. Spend time determining whether you can trust the person you are dating. If he is someone that your friends and family don’t know, then this process can take even longer. Trust is something that a person earns by consistently showing you what their character is. Does he do what he says he will? Does he lie to you or other people? Does he act much differently towards you when around others than when alone with you? Has he treated other girls badly? These are signs that he is untrustworthy.
Dating Tips for girls #3
Never cancel on previous plans with your girlfriends or neglect your friendships. Your good friends will be there forever. Boys will come and go. Don’t neglect, ignore, or treat your friends badly when you are in a relationship. You will definitely regret it.
Dating Tips for teenage girls #4
Don’t be flattered by jealousy. If your boyfriend regularly intrudes on your privacy, accuses you of cheating, threatens other boys or tries to limit or control your freedom, ditch him. This guy is bad news!! This is the behavior of batterers and stalkers.
Dating tips for teenage girls #5
Stick up for yourself. Good relationships are built on being assertive. Assertiveness is expressing your own needs respectfully to other people. Ignoring your own needs and feelings while consistently putting boys first, will cause boys to walk all over you. If you are angry or hurt about something a boy did tell him. Using I statements is a good way to do that. If a boy said he would call you and he didn’t, say “ I feel hurt that you said you would call me yesterday and you didn’t”. You have a right to your feelings.
Dating tips # 6
Don’t date boys who have girlfriends. This might seem obvious but I know a lot of girls who do. A boy who has a girlfriend is not interested in you for the right reasons. Have you never met his friends? Does he treat you differently at school then when you are alone? Something’s not right. Get rid of him!
Dating Tips for teenage girls #7
Introduce the boy to your family. A boy who really likes you will be willing to do things that might make him uncomfortable. If he really cares about you he will want to meet your family. If he doesn’t really care about you, why are you wasting your time? You will only wind up depressed and unhappy.
Dating tips for girls # 8
Ask your friends what they think. Listen to their feedback about whether they like him or not. Your girlfriends might be jealous of your relationship but good friends can normally work through this. If your friends don’t like your boyfriend listen to what they have to say.