Bipolar Teen and Emotional Abuse

My 16 year old, bipolar son verbally abuses me. I am having difficulty communicating with him because he will not listen to what I have to say. He name calls, uses profanity towards me and will physically push or grab me if I try to give consequences(ie. take his computer away). He is vindictive and threatens me. I have even called the police. I don't know the best way to handle this. He doesn't see his behavior! We have been in therapy for years and he is on Depakote. He is also in a substance abuse program. Please help!

Thank you,
Caryn

Hi Caryn

Its difficulty for me to know exactly whats happening, but it is possible that your child is not stable. Are these behaviors bound to a mood state? Many children only behave aggressively when they are manic? DO you understand the signs and symptoms of his mania and depression? Is he able to identify his mood states? Is he actively using? All these issues seem relevant.It seems like you also may need to work with your therapist to have a clear safety plan. It is never okay to feel threatened or to put up with that kind of behavior, and if necessary you need to look to the outside for help when it becomes dangerous.

Good Luck
Kristen McClure