I feel your pain and concern - my child started at a very young age with his tantrums which seemed to always be aimed at me. Now, I am truly his target and he even admits it. No one can really say why except that the children do this to the ones they are closest to. I have always worn all the hats (mom, dad, coach, provider, etc.) and our family members don't offer much support. He describes it as a love-hate with me. He blames me - he thinks something must've happened during my pregnancy to make him this way. I can certainly tell you that you're not alone and perhaps the only thing you probably know for sure is that it's NOT your fault - your child feels the most comfortable with you - possible reason for lashing out at you. Keep your head high and know that you are a great parent looking for answers in how to care for your child. Clearly you are not to blame - its the impact of the illness.
Aug 27, 2008 Rating
Yes, I think so! by: Anonymous
Hi Brandy,
I know that my bipolar son always took most of his anger/aggression out on me and his dad would see the "mini" version of the episodes. For many years, I blamed myself for not being a stronger, more consistent parent.
I have learned, even if I may be some of the cause, we all do the best we can with what we have (emotionally, physically & intellectually)and that has to be good enough. When it is not, we have to know when to seek outside help and that you are no less of a parent in doing so! On this website there is an online support group. This group consists of parents dealing with all issues with their bipolar child. Support is key, especially from those who can understand what you are going through.
I hope you find the answers that you seek,
Renee
