Anger Towards Mother: Bipolar and Attachment

by Dawn

My niece is almost 3 years old. Ever since she has been 10 months old, she has times when she doesn't want to be held by her mother and will actually cry to get away from her. She will tell her mother she hates her. She will be happy with her one minutes and then hate her the next. It's the weirdest thing I've ever seen. She will have periods of anger and defiance out of the blue... I've never known a child to not want to go to their mother or tell them over and over again they hate them...but then love on others.My niece is almost 3 years old. Ever since she has been 10 months old, she has times when she doesn't want to be held by her mother and will actually cry to get away from her. She will tell her mother she hates her. She will be happy with her one minute and then hate her the next. It's the weirdest thing I've ever seen. She will have periods of anger and defiance out of the blue... I've never known a child to not want to go to their mother or tell them over and over again they hate them...but then love on others.

Hi Dawn

It certainly must be shocking to see a three year old try to run or a ten month old struggle to get away from her mother. Many three year olds however have mood swings that are fairly dramatic and periods of anger and defiance out of the blue. Mothers often bear the brunt of the majority of these tantrums and mood swings and bouts of anger. However, if you feel that her behaviors rise above the level of a normal three year olds behavior, it is important to bring this to the mothers attention, encourage her to seek help and to pay further attention to these behaviors yourself.

Although I am not her to give medical advice, there could be many things to investigate that would cause disruptive attachment behavior in a child. Some children have medical conditions that are uncomfortable and undiagnosed that might cause anger behavior such as you are describing. Sensory integration issues or physical pain could also be responsible for such behavior. Certainly it is extremely difficult to diagnosis bipolar disorder in a child this young.

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