3 year old son

by Kem
(Detroit, MI)

Hi, I have a son that just turned 3 a few weeks ago. This morning, I dropped him off at my mom’s who cares for him while I work. On the way there in the car, he told me that he didn't want to go to Gams house. When I pulled in the driveway, he held onto the seat belt and didn't want to get out. I had to pick him up and carry him in the house. He screamed the entire time. When I got him in, the house I doesn't want me to leave for work. I'm sorry worried about him. Is this just a separation tantrum? Is has happened on several occasions. Also, this September I will be enrolling him into daycare. I'm very concerned.

Any feedback/advice would be appreciated.

Thanks, Mrs. G.

Dear Mrs G:

I’m sorry about the troubles you are having with your son. It may be that this is just some separation anxiety. I’m not sure how often this happens or in how many different settings. Some separation anxiety is normal. If it is at the point where it is interfering with his ability to perform tasks normally expected of a three year old, or interfering in your life significantly, then I would take him to a professional to be evaluated.

It also may be that something happened while he was at his grandmother’s house. You may want to talk with him in more detail about why he is frightened and perhaps as your mother if something happened. Good luck!