well... to be honest, when my husband and I went to marriage counseling a couple years ago. The counselor wanted my husband to go to a specialist to see if he was bi-polar. My husband has bi-polar symptoms. But he has refused to get it checked out.
That is why i was wondering about bi-polar. I am so worried with his anger. He can be so sweet and kind and gentle. But then easily it can switch to anger. Kicking and screaming. He doesn't seem to care for consequences. For instance, he will scream and i will say that if he continues he will be put in an time out. He will do it again. I say "okay, you are in a time out for 3 minutes, if you continue it will be 4 minutes." He will continue and this will go on and on. The longest time out he's had is 30 minutes. After about the first 10 minutes he will sit quietly. Afterwards i talk to him. And tell him that he should apologize. Once, he does, i ask him why he was put in a time out and he will answer. Sweet as can be.
Another thing I've tried, is when he is so angry. i just hold him and talk calmly to him. Tell him how much I love him and that it makes me sad that he is so angry. I will ask how he feels and say that it is okay to feel the way we are feeling. those are legitimate feelings and that I get frustrated and angry as well. But that he needs to learn how to express is angry and it is not appropriate to kick or scream, but if he uses his words than we are better able to undrstand him.
I'm just so worried. again not sure if this is just age appropriate or not. But it breaks my heart to see him like this.
